STRESS RELIEF TO YOU [NEVER ALONE -2]

“I’m here. I love you. I don’t care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than Depression and I am braver than Loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.” 

― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

The lonely person is usually inept in interpersonal relations of a deep nature and is ignorant of the role he should play .He is usually a receptor rather than a contributor in the group .He  is physically present but not essential .Introductions alone are not sufficient but a lonely person needs opportunities to meet others .Loneliness with several hundred persons is a habit ,a way of looking at life .It does not respond merely to being introduced to other people .Before one can help him to become sociable ,one must give him a new set of habits ,a new way of regarding both himself and other people before he will permit himself to be truly friendly .

                 Loneliness is good to do your work and study efficiently .It also turns outstanding to concentrate on creative thinking and work. It can not be called to be alone because the mind is supporting the constructive process. The life with negative emotions ruling the mental state of the person creates stress in that person to ruin his life. There is a desperation about the aloneness of a lonely person .He has this great feeling of desolation.

          Loneliness comes out of problems .Every one has problems .Life itself is a problem to lead with many rules ,laws and above all responsibilities .How you handle these problems determines what type of personality you are .If you are healthy ,your problems will enrich you ,unless you have too many .Stress rules our mind when we become weak to take the problems with challenging strong spirit .Although we have never actually measured anyone’s capacity to take emotional strain ,theoretically any machine has its breaking point , and that breaking  point is different for each machine ,depending upon its total structure In the same way each of us should grow to learn his breaking point .

                    There have been periods in the lives of all of us when we lost hold, periods when we are down in spirit, when it seemed that there was nothing ahead, when it seemed as though all of our efforts were fruitless .That is where your breaking point is .That is the point you should avoid. It ruins your will power and confidence to overcome all those problems .Stress occupy your life to loneliness to lifelessness .Other things being equal ,if you  can learn to stand the ordinary crises that constitute  your  life  and bounce back to normal function ,you are a normal person  If you go searching for crises ,you will have to find out why your usual life seems dull .

                 One should solve their problems that come on their path but should not be a problem himself with arousal of negative emotions .The basic difference between a well-adjusted one is that the latter is the slave of his emotions ,where as  the well- adjusted person is the master of his emotions .The person who is maladjusted is like a person trying to play the piano when he has neither the ability to read notes nor a trained ear .If he really wants to play ,he needs training in both .Then he can enjoy his efforts .Every one should learn to use the entire gamut of his emotional possibilities .That is essentially what adjustment consists of -learning to use your personality equipment to its fullest,ruling out stress when you are alone.

“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. "

― Douglas Coupland -

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