TO OVERCOME FEAR IN CHILDREN

      

   Fear is a negative emotion, which discourages and diminishes one's ability. Every individual undergo stress if he/she experiences fear. Children face numerous problems with fear. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the parents to relieve their children from stress causing factors.

Tips to relieve children from stress causing fear factors:

1.Comparisons: Children often fear if compared with other known friends and neighbours at their disability to prove their knowledge. Children admire their parents. Fear of insecurity develops within, when their parents criticize, in front of their relatives, friends and neighbours’.

• Therefore never compare your children to others rather inspire them, by your deeds. Always encourage them with positive words and attitude.

2. Warnings: Children often get warnings from their parents and teachers to complete their given tasks within time. Slow learners and writers often, find it difficult to complete them. Fear makes them to undergo stress, which ruins their natural capabilities.

• It is always advisable to appreciate their will power and provide them the required time independently. Parents, teachers encouragement and dedicated practice, develops their ability. Child loves to prove their skills and interests, when encouraged with affection.

3. Harsh words and manhandling: Children mostly fear manhandling, abusive language, loud voices and harsh discouraging words. They become extremely helpless when their most trust worthy parents, teachers and friends give them such pain. Later, these unpleasant situations become their inner voices. Such circumstances often tune into certain psychological problems. Lack of faith and fear in every area surrounds then in their future.

Make the child to understand the importance of a given task. Help them to succeed in it with your valuable guidance. Authority of parents and teachers to make children perfect with over discipline and their threatening warnings makes them to undergo severe stress, that cause immense fear. Elders with their living teach discipline through moral values in day today life.

4. Examinations: Fear of examinations is common in the children. Time management, presentation and completion of question paper without spelling mistakes, makes them to undergo stress with fear.

• All the instructions should be given to children before examination to avoid unnecessary stress. Progressive counseling of concepts and practice makes them feel comfortable to answer all the questions with time management. It eliminates fear that causes stress.

5. Horror movies or pictorial stories: Children scream aloud with nightmares, when they watch and hear horror movies and stories. It gives them incredible fear. They may enjoy watching, but constant recurrence of ugly and terrifying figures cause stress in their mind. Unhealthy atmosphere with disputes at home among the family members also make children to suffer with fear, that causes stress in their innocent, helpless minds.

                   Always avoid such unfavourable and unhealthy situations to avoid stress caused by fear in the children.

6. Create a peaceful, secured and happy atmosphere :Therefore, always guide your children to watch pleasant movies and hear wonderful stories with moral values, advisable for their respective age. Create a peaceful, happy atmosphere at home.

It is the responsibility of the parents, teachers and people in this society to provide children, all their primary needs with fearless - confident future to lead a stress less, happy-healthy life.

Elders care, concern, comfort and company will always provide fearlessness in life to their children.

Hazel Shirley 

Tips on Raising a Fearless Child
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