STRESS RELIEF ON FINDING YOURSELF

"Listening to what was not said" in a conversation means paying attention to the underlying emotions, unspoken concerns, and subtle cues beyond the literal words being spoken, essentially trying to understand the deeper meaning or context behind someone's message by observing their tone, body language, and choice of words.

Time doesn't wait 

Our Parents are Our first teachers.

Our teachers are always like parents to us.

Right from our childhood,

People in different areas influence us.

Either good or bad,

We get attracted more to whom our thoughts and interests are synced with.

We stay away from those whom we can't tolerate.

Choice matters.

A person is neither forced by coercion nor misrepresented to select their abilities.

It's all about the interests one dives in, to achieve.

Yes, Choice matters.

Anyways,

Time doesn't wait.

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Listen!

Are you lost?

Are you curious?

Are you striving to get identified, seeking others attention?

If so, this post is for you.

Ask yourself—why?

In life, 

We struggle a lot to impress someone.

We learn to build ourselves to prove our abilities to others.

But

Have we ever thought of our own lives, which have their own purpose?

Every human being has his/her own identity.

We are different by our nature, looks, behaviour, thoughts, and lifestyles.

We are creative in our own way.

That's how we are made.

Writing on a slate can help us learn well.

The imprint on our thumb is carved carefully to dwell.

Instead of impressing anyone, 

It's constructive to influence someone to live a purposeful life.

Critical thinking would resolve any issue.

A complex mindset could dissolve what one wants to pursue.

A consistently careful concentration to build a conduct is an ultimate career to cherish and establish.

You are born for a purpose.

Leave no chance to find yourself to please 

The One who designed you to be unique.

 - Hazel Shirley 

Is attention seeking behaviour a unhealthy issue?

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/attention-seeking-behavior/

STRESS RELIEF WITH EMPATHY AWARDS

 

The Team Work - Empathy Awards 

How wonderful it would be!

If the awards for empathy were rewarded by

the employees!

How graceful it could be!

If promotions were achieved by the opinions of the encouraging team.

How grateful one would be when planned in a respective time to accomplish every dream!

If being unkind is the only way to get the work done, then the role of education has no impact on such a platform.

Therefore,

Don't try to become something that, you are not.

Don't force yourself to smile, where you are disrespected.

Don't strive to grab a merit, where you learned nothing.

Don't complain about the people, that you didn't teach.

Don't run away from your working company, as you are fed and honoured by the esteem.

Know that one's education is emphasized by their empathy.

Life is not about winning the credits.

It's all about your vision to keep learning from the aspirants and forgiving those who discouraged you, when you were winning. 

It's your willingness to take on the challenges of life. 

It's your willpower to make use of every opportunity in your sight.

No matter what,

Stand for your rights.

Stay calm when you are blamed.

But write it down—what you have to say.

Honesty shines as your signature,

Confidence grows as you pray.

Words are created to build.

It's the only essence in life.

Stay wise and wear an honest smile.

No matter where you reside,

Bloom and design a thankful voice.

Hazel Shirley  🌿 

STRESS RELIEF WITH GRATEFUL LEARNING

                

                  Grateful Learning 

Respect every drop of sweat, 

as it is made, when the blood is at strain. 

Honour every drop of tear, 

as it is made, when the heart is in pain.  

Admire every word, that one expresses with a true heart,

Appreciate every deed that, one does with hope. 

Conquer every trail to compete in this world,

Conduct is the only concept, that makes you proud.  

Stripes harm less,

But a harsh word hurts one to weep.

Secrets are told,

when a heart trusts someone, deeply. 

Healthy kind minds strive honestly to lead,

Humanity is their wealth to prosper a generous need.

When life is almost at the end, 

just look back to see, 

how lively you have spent,

and to feel grateful about the LORD.

Though the hour is last to breathe..,

No matter what,

let there be no regrets please..!

- Hazel Shirley -

Time management - Decision making 

In a world full of distractions, entertainment,  wars, natural calamities and noise strive to stay alive with a productive responsible lifestyle.

Hazel Shirley 🌿 

STRESS RELIEF WITH A CLASSY BEHAVIOUR

'Every behaviour is a form of communication.'

"Kindness will not be forgotten."

If our children are listening to hours of violence occurring in the world through their gadgets, instead of a few minutes of care, healthy communication, and affectionate time from their parents and loved ones,

Think 🤔 

Who is winning the influence?

Remember, 

Our behaviour can either build a life,

Or

it can scatter a healthy smile.

Choice matters; speak life. 🌿

Hazel Shirley  - 

Develop Critical thinking,

Creative thinking and Constructive thinking 

"Thankful Heart - Peaceful Life." 

The Real Education is 

To Promote the kindness, non-profitably and unconditionally for a healthy Mindset in the world.

           Hazel Shirley   🌿 

What does it mean to be a classy person?

A classy person is seen as high quality. A person, that rises above petty matters and crude behaviour. They dress and act with elegance and style. They maintain good manners, show respect for all around them, and say the right thing at the right time. They avoid topics of gossip, hate, divisiveness, and bigotry.

Courtesy: Google 

What is a behaviour in a simple definition?

The Behaviour is how someone acts. It is what a person does to make something happen, to make something change or to keep things the same. Behaviour is a response to things that are happening: internally - thoughts, words , deeds and feelings. externally - the  environment, responsibilities, interests, choices including other people.

Courtesy: Google 

What is a good behaviour definition?

Noun: satisfactory, proper, or polite conduct. conduct conformable to law; orderly conduct: The convict's sentence was reduced for good behavior.

Bad Behaviour: It is harmful to the society. Avoid it completely.

Courtesy: Google 

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"Let's Learn to Speak those words on which we can sign without regrets."

                              CLASSY    🌿

It's not about being rich, beautiful, trendy or intelligent. 

It's all about being self-disciplined.

Self- Discipline 

It's the combination of being honest and humble.

It's very rare to find though,

Treasure it, when you find it.

Practice it, when you learn about it.

Remember, 

Our behaviour can either build a life,

Or can scatter a healthy smile.

Choice matters - Speak Life.  🌿

Then,

Ability to work effectively in time develops,

Capability to think productively conquers,

Words to encourage one another cherishes,

Sharing the responsibilities progress,

Good health prospers.

Hazel Shirley  - 

The most beautiful life is to challenge every situation with a pleasant smile,
and to prove to this world, that Life doesn't  define every rhyme.

One becomes strong by their memories and strength of love, that keeps them safe, serene, wise and strong. 

Beautiful are those lives, who taught us, that our feelings are born in sacred hearts and survive along.

Precious are those words, that come from the tears unseen.  

Marvellous are those eyes, that treasure those words in their Soul. 

~ Hazel Shirley ~

"Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness in people."

Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

  “Any man's life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day.”

- Booker T. Washington

STRESS RELIEF WITH A PEACEFUL SOCIETY

 The Ray of Hope.....

The World Already has Millions of Preachers and Ten Millions of Entrepreneurs. 

Now, whom we don't find easily are the Good models and kind listeners, that can bind our hearts and build Our Nations. 

Hazel Shirley

A pleasant environment is a gift of the righteousness.

The Evil plots a secret scheme to ruin a rightful person, which decomposes the peace in the society.

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Have you ever noticed people, who pay no attention towards the lawful deeds?

Have you ever tried to question them, not to live irresponsibly towards the society?

Have you considered to condemn lawlessness genuinely?

Have you ever tried reporting to the concerned authorities or officials?

Is your problem resolved?

If you have never witnessed or faced such a situation, then this article might not be an important post for you.

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A Big threat to the society:

When the illegal words and illicit deeds are neglected, unnoticed, unreported and when they are not condemned, it will become a big threat to the society, we are living in.

The kindness or the cowardness of the bearer becomes a huge benefit to the illicit people, who might take lenience to continue the illegal deeds.

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Unresolved issues might damage the living beings:

A constant flooding of rain water on the high way might damage the roads and can cease the transport.

A continuous cutting of trees might pollute our environment.

A dirty canal water and it's wastage, when sent into the near by sea, then it might ruin the huge ocean.

A hospital or an industry built in a residential area might spread contagious diseases quickly and can contaminate, that place. This is very hazardous for the public health.

An uninterrupted criminal illegal deeds or acts, might destroy the human civilization, and might turn to be a threat to the peaceful Living.

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Voice to Values :

To condemn the wrong deeds and to report to the concerned authorities is our minimum responsibility.

In any environment, where earning name, fame and fortune illegally when ignored, then, the Gen Z needs to face it's cruelty, unknowingly.

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The Truth Prevails:

Let the common sense work.

Keep the conscience Clear.

Empower the consciousness.

🌿     🌿     🌿      🌿       🌿

5 C Enlightenments

🌷 Common sense

🌷 Consciousness

🌷 Conscience

🌷 Critical thinking

🌷  Compassion

Care and Counsel about the above 5 C Enlightenments to build a healthy mindset and a valuable society for the Gen Z. 

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Condemn and report on every illegal act or deed. 

Not guilty of a sin is the biggest threat to the society.

Protect every place from the secret evil plots and inhuman illegal deeds.

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Self- Discipline - Emotional Intelligence 

Stay Safe - Be responsible - Protect the Society - Preserve the environment -  Be kind - Practice Empathy.

Are we not responsible for the Gen Z ?

STRESS RELIEF WITH VALUABLE TIME PLAN

Every new day, we choose our priorities according to our time plan.

No one can deviate your focus, when your conscience is pure.

An empathetic thought is more powerful, than a diet plan chart. 

Our interests might build a life, 

Or shatter a smile.

Decent decision making is a progressive sign,

Discouraging and deceiving someone is a crime.

Time is the most valuable gift,

A person's influence resides in their heart.

One's actions describe their thoughts.

GOD designed us to continuously work, think and to encourage one another.

Even when we are at sleep, every single cell in our body does it's job.

Our Brain including all the internal organs in our entire body works to rejuvenate our health. 

Listening, speaking, reading and writing are the skills, that should always be active, therefore excercise. 

It helps us to attain a healthy mindset.

Having all the resources to succeed is an innate guide.

But achieving success amidst many barriers is an unique light.

Honesty is priceless. Humility is Classy.

Determination designs developing directions.

Patience produces perfect platforms.

To empower with holistic responsibility is a valuable contribution.

To focus on a constructive work with all the amicable solutions having consistent readiness to learn and unlearn the truth is always an ultimate blessing.

Hazel Shirley 

EMBRACE GOD'S PEACE' 

"Humility is the utmost peace present in your heart, mind and soul, that overcomes every sarcasm in this world."

Hazel Shirley 

If you can take responsibility our own life, then you will begin to realize that you can change it. 

H. K. Abell, Being Human

STRESS RELIEF WITH A HEARTY RESPECT

 

Our Nation's pride - Our Marvellous Mothers, daughters and granddaughters.

Angles in disguise, 

A Soldier's Sacrifice that,

no treasure on earth can price.

No more tears left,

After this heartbreak.

A patriotic soldier fought until his last breath.

His bride could stand to receive his respect,

But her shivering voice has nothing to say.

A beautiful smile faded away,

A gentle whisper, that only her heart could share,

Thank you for sacrificing for our country and for my sake.

Standing ovation to our nation's pride.

You are the crown of Our Country that only a  prayer could make.

Hazel Shirley

YouTube Courtesy https://youtu.be/miKW_q8P9D0?si=aSLMHydq2WkSLSdd

STRESS RELIEF WITH MORAL VALUES

 

Healthy Mindset - Save a gentle - humble smile.

50% of human diseases would have disappeared from the surface of the earth if we would have practiced gratitude in our hearts and humility in our minds. 

Another 50% of lives would have been secured, when saved from greed, jealousy, irresponsibility, pride, and anger.

The Moral Decay 

Are we worried about the natural calamities, pandemics, and environmental pollution?

Rather, we should be terrified to note, that we should tremble down onto our knees to cease the moral decay. 

The extreme extension of destroying the human beings and living beings to win a race.

Centuries passed by...

Fear of death didn't transform a person as much as a passion to sin.

In this World, where Sin is being legalized,

What lesson do we have restored to help a child visualise?

Peace for a trade,

And

War for a place..!?

The human body is a tissue that a minute needle could break.

Nevertheless, its brain to construct is less,

when compared to the destruction that a war could make.

Alas! 

Heartless minds..,

Power is not in cruelty.

It's in the patience of nobility.

An innocent cry is the deepest pain and heartbreaking tale.

Remember,

In the garden of hope,

A pure heart will never fade,

An honest prayer is the only tree that gives us shade.

 “GOD will turn this valley of tears into a city of everlasting joy.”

 Faith never fails. 

A Bird's Song      🕊️

If a person's greed could feed the soul, then

It's not difficult to digest any metal at a store.

It's not the institution that wins a rank but a student, who worked hard in his time.

If a single ball at a playground can win millions of hearts to entertain and can remember all the player's names...!

How difficult is it to know about a farmer and a soldier, who lives for others to earn their own piece of bread?

One's ruthless anger can burn their gut's intestine.

None can hate a person, who doesn't have any fame.

One might be an angel for a few, but an enemy for their own crew.

No matter what 

Time doesn't wait.

🕊️  

A bird's song, which is unheard,

A tree's shade, which is invisible,

A person's conscience, that doesn't' work,

are all the same .

Hazel Shirley

STRESS RELIEF WITH SELFLESSNESS

What is the meaning of selflessness?

When you're being selfless, you're thinking of other people before yourself. Selflessness is the opposite of selfishness. If you're selfless, you think less about yourself, and more about others. Selfless people are generous and kind.

Simple, honest, kind, patient people lead selfless life and stressless life. As they choose to remain grateful and thankful for the valuable family, friends and their society. They maintain silence and remain sincere during the situations, which are not in their control. The gratification excels by their faith in GOD.

🌿  We are happy, successful, healthy, progressive, generous, honest and alive because there are many unconditional contributions made by selfless genuine human beings on this earth by the grace of GOD.

Gratitude to ALMIGHTY for giving us all those kind and helpful people as HIS blessings. 

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What is a selfish person like?

People who are selfish often knowingly behave in ways that hurt other people so that they, themselves, can benefit. Self-centered people are overly focused on themselves; the Mirriam-Webster dictionary defines “self-centered” as preoccupied with oneself and one's affairs.

Such people around cause stress in the lives of their dear and nearones.

Traits of Selfish People:

Manipulating situations to their advantage.

Always considering what is in it for them.

Never being prepared to do favor unless they are getting something in return.

Not caring about others, or being unable to empathize.

Being conceited, and valuing one's own opinion and benefits over all others.

Not being willing to share.

Finding it hard to accept any kind of criticism.

Always believing their needs are most important.

Carelessness ruins responsibilities that causes immense stress.

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                         Self-Righteous

What Does It Mean to Be Self-Righteous?

Here are a few definitions of self-righteousness:

Merriam-Webster – “Convinced of one's own righteousness especially in contrast with the actions and beliefs of others: narrow-mindedly moralistic.”

Urban Dictionary – “A self-righteous person acts superior to his peers because he believes his moral standards are perfect. This ‘moral smugness’ is condescending by nature and is usually found offensive by others.”

Self-realization and Self-sanctification are extremely important to build a stress free life. Self-righteousness and self-statements often cause threat to one's own self.

Our lives testimony isn't based on our opinion. It's the family, friends and dearones, who are associated in our life, express their own thoughts regarding our behaviour and attitude.

Being grateful for every single breath we take knowingly and unknowingly is the greatest blessing to every living being.  Especially, the human being without whom this earth wouldn't have lost its beauty. As we live and still find the oxygen, stay grateful for  Thanksgiving, as it is the most melodious Praise, that we can give to GOD the author and the finisher of our lives. May the  Children around the world feel safe and serene as we look into their eyes.

Hazel Shirley 

STRESS RELIEF WITH A SUCCESSFUL LIFE

A person does not praise GOD.

until one meets with their miracle. 

A person does not value the Light until it turns dark. 

A person does not respect the time until it runs away. 

A person does not admire the beauty of the soul until a sincere heart turns astray. 

A person does not know the worth of their honest parent until one watches their empty chair. 

You are blessed with one life, 

So, learn to respect worthy things,

While you are still alive. 

GOD doesn't give us problems and puzzles.

GOD gives us time, conscience, abilities, and opportunities.

It's our choice to choose,

Either to construct a good conduct by the grace of GOD,

Or 

To destroy a character with the greedy thoughts.

Life is simple to add value.

Let's not make it complicated. 

It's a Soul Talk

A person does not praise GOD

until one meets with their miracle. 

A person does not value the Light, until it turns dark. 

A person does not respect the time, until it runs away. 

A person does not admire the beauty of the Soul, until a sincere heart turns astray. 

A person does not know the worth of their honest parent, until one watches their empty chair. 

You are blessed with one Life, 

So, learn to respect worthy things,

While, You are still alive. 

Hazel Shirley 🌿 

Our LORD'S constructive path.

Build a person but don't break their heart.

Speak the truth but don't lie at all.

Forgive those, who hurt you but never forget to bless and pray for their transformation into a kind person to embrace the honest thoughts.

In a world where you can be anything,

Just pray to be a life obedient to GOD'S WILL.

Hazel Shirley 

STRESS RELIEF WITH A HEALTHY MINDSET

Healthy Mindset - Growth mindset 

To appreciate someone, let's not depreciate another.

To encourage someone, let's not discourage another.

To compliment someone, let's not complain about another.

To help someone, let's not hinder another.

A healthy mind set always strives to build a voice.

Words to construct a pathway, even to the visually challenged are encrypted by the wise.

Kindness never goes out of style.

Choose to be gentle and nice. 

It's the formula for every successful life. 

Voice to values will cherish a broken heart and empower a healthy smile.

Stress relief with self-control

Our negative emotions and situations should be under control to avoid any form of destruction. It's a unique quality for a human being.

There are certain important reasons for which, the mankind can't control a natural calamity.

So...,

Control your anger, because we can't control a volcano from erupting...

Stop slandering, because we can't stop the storms.

Cease fighting, because we can't stop the floods.

Deactivate dangerous weapons, because we can't stop the deadly diseases.

Turn back from the cruel revenge, because we can't stop a tornado or a Tsunami. 

Quit from greedy deeds, because we can't stop the famine.

Halt harrasment, because we can't stop an earthquake.

Pause pride, because we can't stop the Sun,

that is at blaze and a hurricane that can shiver a state.

Realisation is the best anchor to sculpt the heart to repent.

Repentance helps us to bring about a behavioural change.

Good thoughts and kind deeds, that 

can build a constructive path is the 

only purpose worthy in our life.

Unity in a team work nurtures a bright future to a healthy mindset.

Hazel Shirley 

STRESS RELIEF WITH EMPATHY

OVERLOADED WORK CAUSES EXTREME STRESS

Sometimes, it's very heart'wrenching to write a few words to this advanced technological world. A place where our work schedules are striving to manage a day work within 24 Hours. Yet, fail to complete the task. 

Running after fixed work and time, advertising about growth mindset and forgetting about the capability of a human body causes immense stress. 

In this competitive place, where humanity is fading away by hurting the innocent teens to hardworking adults is almost found at lives every turn.

 "The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful."

Why is the tongue a dangerous weapon?

People are hurt by words all the time. Relationships may be broken, jobs or promotions may be lost, innocent people sent to jail, etc. Words have a great effect on people, and we just throw them around without thinking sometimes. Many times, the whole purpose of our words is to hurt others, which causes immense stress.

How can the tongue destroy?

Words can destroy or slander a person's reputation. Idly spoken words can set someone on the wrong path in life. If you tell a child that they are no good, if you tell them that they will grow up to be a loser, if you tell a person they are stupid, in time the person will believe you.

Pressure in work causes 

Overthinking, fear, anxiety, disappoint, discouragement, frustration, short temper, restlessness, lack of appetite, sleeplessness, nausea, severe headache, migraine, suicidal thoughts, suffocation, inferiority complex, depression.

What empathy really means?

So, what is empathy? It's the ability to understand another person's thoughts and feelings in a situation from their point of view, rather than your own. It differs from sympathy, where one is moved by the thoughts and feelings of another but maintains an emotional distance.

"It is truly said that speak only when your words are more beautiful than your silence." 

Is empathy a value or skill?

As Tim Minchin noted, empathy is a skill that can be developed and, as with most interpersonal skills, empathising (at some level) comes naturally to most people.

Avoid stress causing factors :

1. Gossip

2. Slander

3. Lying

4. Flattery

5. Criticism

6. Cursing

7. Complaining

Stress relieving factors

1. Appreciation 

2. Encouragement

3. Admiration

4. Empathy

5. Mutual respect and understanding 

Hazel Shirley 

Question and answer courtesy about tongue and empathy: Google 

Stress causing factors and stress relieving factors Courtesy: Bible Epics - You tube 

STRESS RELIEF WITH A REPENTANCE PRAYER

Many words that we speak intentionally or unintentionally might block our blessings.

Let's be very cautious and careful about our interests, thoughts, deeds and words.

If GOD Knows all, 

Why should we Pray ?

If God knows each and every one of us, sometimes, better than we know ourselves, what is the purpose of a prayer?

 As GOD says in 

Jeremiah 1:5

“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” 

 HE knows our every thought and desire. 

HE knows what we want and what we need -even if we don’t yet know it ourselves.  

So, if God knows all, why should we pray?

A. “The function of a prayer is not to influence GOD, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.”

PRAYER   🙏🏻

1. It's a complete surrender of our body, mind and soul to the CREATOR.

2. It's an Honest and humble submission of Our thoughts, words and deeds.

3. It specifies our Sincere efforts towards -

 self-examination,

 self-realization, 

 self- repentance,

 self- sanctification

and

 🌿 Self-determination to honour and believe in GOD with self-submission.

🌿 Rely Only on GOD Our true Saviour LORD JESUS CHRIST to lead us in HIS righteous path.

🌿 Yes! PRAYER a divine path to reach the most High GOD.

🌿 More than others, it transforms our Heart first of all.

Hazel Shirley